THE 48 LAWS OF LOVE: Law number 8 – Who’s down with O.P.P?

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Law number 8 – Who’s down with O.P.P?

Premise – “Never lay claim to what isn’t yours, the rightful owner always claims their property in the end.” – Grandma, R.I.P

Yeah you know me! This Law explores the topic of the ubiquitous Naughty by Nature 90’s hit song. What the hell happened to morals? These days both women and men go out to great lengths to snag other people’s property; with the advent of technological advancements like texting, cell phones, email, Facebook, MySpace and Twitter etc, it’s all to easy to play away from home without being too obvious. But a warning to goes out to the men; women are the best “cheating” detectives alive and we will hack into your respective accounts and find incriminating evidence!

It looks like OPP is here to stay for the most part and women in particular are becoming a lot more cavalier about their intentions to bag someone else’s man. In fact some chicks even brag about it…go figure.

Now some of y’all that are new to the game might not be able to resist a lil something on the side with an unattainable person, whether it be a work colleague, your best friend’s man or even an in-law. It’s a dangerous game which ever way you look at it, and I guess I won’t be the first to tell you that it’s a bad idea.

See you might think that your case is different; you might think that you and this person you are cheating with are meant to be together, but more often that not, cheaters that get together (this is rare) on an official basis fail in their relationship once the thrill of running around behind people’s backs hit. I sometimes liken the feeling
that people that cheat get to a drug; those stolen kisses when no-one is looking; the quickie in the janitor’s cupboard or the dirty texts that you send each other can make the day to day interactions with your rightful significant other pale in comparison. The lure of forbidden fruit is often hard to resist once you’ve tasted it once (speaking from experience here!); there’s nothing like it and just like a crack induced high – short and sweet, but can destroy your life if you don’t quit it.

I think men have the right idea when it comes to being a cheater (not that I condone their methods) and keeping things in perspective. They don’t usually let emotions get in the way of what essentially is just sex on a platter; it’s nothing more than that to them and nothing less.

Let’s look at when married men cheat; they almost never ever leave their wives for the mistress. They just want the best of both words and don’t mind spending major dollars to have just that. Ladies that are cheating with a married man that are reading this, please don’t believe him when he asks for “time” to break the news of your relationship to his wife; there is a 90% chance that it will not happen. There is a reason that he is married to her and not you; there is a reason that he goes home to her every night and tucks the kids into bed and yes he will still have sex with her when he gets the chance no matter how many times he tells you that he is in a dead marriage. I always call bullshit when I hear of men that tell their mistresses this one; oh yeah, and the phrase “it’s cheaper to keep her” is just a modern way of saying “I’m never leaving my wife, so you’ll just have to make do with being the jump-off.”


One of the worst consequences of dealing with someone else’s man/woman is the pain and heartache that everyone goes through when relationship is found out and the proverbial shit hits the fan; also this stage is where cheating males will go back to their women for forgiveness and leave you (the mistress) in the dust for the sake of saving their original relationship. He might come back to you when it’s all blown over, but why would you even accept that?

What makes me mad is that women will accept being somebody’s second choice for the sake of not being alone. Oh I know about you ladies too – I’m talking to the ones that know they’re a mistress and happy with it. The ones that don’t mind being the booty call or the jump-off (and not for financial gain either – they are fucking with someone else’s man, “just because”) and see nothing wrong with being used whenever dude feels like dipping his stick in another bowl.

Why would you as a human being that deserves as much love and attention as the next woman, settle for less than you should? Being without a man for a while is not a death sentence; it should give you a chance learn about yourself and watch other people’s behaviours. Trust me, those that cheat with a person does not belong to them usually end up alone in the end; don’t believe the hype, your situation isn’t gonna be somehow ‘different’ from everybody else’s.

Look at these statistics:

• Affairs affect one of every 2.7 couples, according to counselor Janis Abrahms Spring, author of After the Affair, as reported by the Washington Post on March 30, 1999. Ten percent of extramarital affairs last one day, 10 percent last more than one day but less than a month, 50 percent last more than a month but less than a year, but 40 percent last two or more years. Few extramarital affairs last more than four years.

• A lesser known fact is that those who divorce rarely marry the person with whom they are having the affair. For example, Dr. Jan Halper’s study of successful men (executives, entrepreneurs, professionals) found that very few men who have affairs divorce their wife and marry their lovers. Only 3 percent of the 4,100 successful men surveyed eventually married their lovers.

• Frank Pittman has found that the divorce rate among those who married their lovers was 75 percent. The reasons for the high divorce rate include: intervention of reality, guilt, expectations, a general distrust of marriage, and a distrust of the affairee.
Note that the above adultery statistics of the prevalence of affairs were made more than a decade ago; so based on changes in society during the intervening years, the current percentage of the population who have had affairs is probably somewhat HIGHER. For instance, the continuing increase of women in the workplace and the increase of women having affairs on the Internet means that the numbers for women having affairs is probably similar to those for men—about 60%.

Source: http://www.menstuff.org/issues/byissue/infidelitystats.html


See O.P.P ain’t always where it’s at. I could write a book on this topic, but fortunately for me, I’m only going to use one chapter. Love isn’t real if it’s stolen from someone else and if he/she you’re cheating with is that great then they shouldn’t have cheated in the first place. They would have made a clean break from their current situation to be with you in a way that does not involve concealing you as the other person.
Common sense should also make you ask yourself one question; if he/she cheats with you, what makes you think that they won’t cheat with another person once y’all become official (if you become official that is)?

Food for thought.


Discuss….

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